Recovery Coaching for
Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma

Therapy is a licensed clinical service involving diagnosis and treatment of mental health conditions, governed by state and national licensing laws. Coaching is goal-oriented, non-clinical support focused on skill-building, accountability, and forward progress. Coaching works alongside — not instead of — therapy for complex issues like sex addiction and betrayal trauma.

You don't need to be currently in therapy, but coaching is most effective when you're reasonably stable. If your situation suggests clinical care is indicated, I'll be transparent about that and can help with referrals. We discuss this during the free consultation.

A therapeutic full disclosure is a structured process in which a person with compulsive sexual behaviors discloses their full history to their partner — in a controlled, supported setting. I offer coaching to help individuals in recovery prepare a thorough, honest disclosure, and help betrayed partners navigate the process with grounded questions and pacing. Note: the formal clinical disclosure process (including formal impact letters and polygraph coordination) is typically led by a CSAT therapist.

Yes — Irongate Coaching is a global coaching practice. I work with clients across North America, Europe, Australia, and beyond via secure video. All sessions are conducted in English. We'll discuss time zones and relevant cross-border privacy considerations during the initial consultation.

CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) is an advanced certification through the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP). APSATS (Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists) is a separate professional organization specializing in partner trauma support. I am currently an APSATS Trainee and CSAT Candidate, actively completing this specialized training. SEP (Somatic Experiencing Practitioner) is a credential earned through training in Peter Levine's Somatic Experiencing model for trauma and nervous system regulation.

Somatic Experiencing is an evidence-informed, body-based approach to resolving trauma and chronic stress, developed by Dr. Peter Levine. As an SEP, I'm trained to help clients work with nervous system activation, grounding, and regulation — tools that are particularly valuable in recovery from betrayal trauma and compulsive behavior patterns. In a coaching context, I use SE-informed skills rather than clinical SE therapy.

Most clients begin with an 8–12 week commitment and reassess from there. Some come for a specific goal (like preparing for a disclosure) and finish in a focused block. Others continue ongoing accountability coaching for several months. We'll design the structure around your actual goals.

Yes, within important limits. Coaching information is private except when someone is at imminent risk of harm, where suspected abuse or neglect of a vulnerable person may require reporting, or where a court order compels disclosure. Cross-border coaching adds complexity — we discuss what applies in your specific jurisdiction before we begin.

Partner-centric recovery refers to a recovery orientation in which the person with compulsive sexual behaviors takes consistent, concrete accountability toward rebuilding safety and trust with their partner. It focuses on empathy, transparency, consistency, and demonstrating change through behavior — not just words. I offer coaching for individuals in recovery who genuinely want to understand the impact of their actions and rebuild trust.